Helping a Friend
It is sometimes hard for a person in an abusive relationship to leave or end the relationship. It is also hard to know what you can do to help someone you care about who is being abused. Even if you want to do everything you can to protect that person, the choice to leave an abusive relationship or not can only be made by the person going through the abuse. But, there are some ways you can help the person you know find their own way to escape abuse and be safe.
The serious and painful effects of domestic violence could impact the victim wanting to end their relationship. They may have been told the abuse was their fault and they feel responsible. Even though the relationship was abusive, they might feel sad and lonely when it’s over. And there are many different reasons why victims stay, they may break up with and go back to the abuser many times. Remember that it may be hard for them to talk about the abuse.
Here are some tips that can help you safely use your cell phone:
Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone who you think needs help. Tell them you are concerned
for their safety and want to help.
Be supportive and listen patiently. Acknowledge their feelings about their relationship.
Help them recognize that the abuse is not “normal” and is not their fault. Everyone deserves a
healthy relationship without violence.
Focus on your friend or family member, not on the abuser. Even if the person stays with their
abusive partner, it is important that they still feel comfortable talking to you about it.
Be respectful of your friend or family members’ choice about the relationship.
Give them resources in their community that can give them information and guidance.
Help them develop a plan to end their relationship safely.
If they break up with the abuser, keep being supportive of them after the relationship is over.
Even when you feel like there’s nothing you can do, don’t forget that by being there and by being
supportive and caring-you are already doing a lot.